We all, individually or collectively, search for well-being. That state of happiness and feel good all around. Not only physically but mentally as well. If we need to start somewhere, it has to be a change in mind. When we adopt a new mindset and apply it to work for our benefit, the possibilities are endless.
Being happy is a requisite for well-being. Happiness is found within. So, we have the key to our own happiness. However is not so simple to discover it. We have to be aware of it and accept our limitations. In other words, our imperfections. Yes, those imperfections we hate so much and feel ashamed of.
The task is paramount but not impossible. Accepting ourselves is easier said than done. It takes time and discipline. In the end, to make that kind of change is itself gratifying, so do not be afraid to do it.
First, we need to be aware of ourselves. Of the good and the bad. The things we like and dislike about ourselves. What is it that I would like to change? You will need to study yourself. Take in mind that you do not have to be hard on yourself. You are the way you are because of your upbringing and the beliefs you grew up with.
Remember, this is not a blaming game. This is of acceptance and also of recognition. Acceptance because of all that you have lived in your life you are at this stage of awareness. Think about how the “bad” can work to your advantage. Recognize that you can make changes and you can improve. Most importantly, do not compare yourself. That will kill your momentum.
Once you are aware where you are standing, it is easy to know where you need to make changes. Improvements that will make your life better. Write it down, in a list or as a journal entry. Allow yourself to express your needs, do not overthink it. In order for this exercise to be a “natural experience”, give yourself space. Alone in your room without interruptions or go out to a quiet place where you can concentrate.
Keep in mind, the changes you are going to be making are to improve your well being, not to stress you out. It is ok if you feel intimidated by them. You are about to embark on a new journey. Change is intimidating by nature but also rewarding once you accomplish it.
These changes take time. Evaluate your list and divide them into short-term and long-term changes. Some are able to be accomplished faster than others.
Now that you have determined the changes you want to see, is time to take action. This how are you going to make them happen. To make changes in life takes time. It is a process. Even for the smallest one.
You need to strengthen your mind. Reading about those aspects you need to change will definitely help you stay on your path. How have people done it, what resources have they use, how long had taken them. All this information will help you “figure it out” BUT you have to make it your own. After all, this is about you and your happiness.
For some, it is easier to do changes and to adapt. Don’t get discouraged if it not the same for you. You do you. One step at the time. One day at the time. An action at the time. Since these are life goals, I wouldn’t use a timetable. You may if you want to. But the idea here is for these actions to become so natural that you don’t think about them when you do them.
- Surround yourself with supporters: they will help you and cheer for you. Also, it will help your accountability.
- Dismiss any negativity from your life: that is the least you need. It will drain your energy.
All this effort should be enjoyable. Make you feel better. The process should not be painful or complicated, it should bring you joy. That is the ultimate goal. It is an ongoing never ending process. It is going to become natural to you.
I am not a professional on this topic. This is roughly what I have done and what has worked for me. Being happy and having joy in your life does not mean the absence of problems. It means, that even with problems you chose to be happy. See the good even in the bad times.
I have worked hard on myself, to have a positive attitude, empathy, to be mindful and stay in the present, be grateful, keep negativity at bay, to name a few. Have come a long way and I’m still a work in progress. I still find space for improvement. Ways to make it better.
It is a journey, not a destination. Every day is an opportunity. Find “you”, the real you and you will have found happiness.
Let me know in the comments how are you finding well-being. Remember you can subscribe to receive the latest post right in your inbox. Thanks for reading.